I had the dream last night, again... It pops up a handful of times throughout the year. It's a less desirable one. Not like the one where I'm flying down a mountainside on a skinny tired bike and then just become weightless and float the rest of the way... Nope. Nothing like that one.
No, no, this one is the one where I wake confused and disoriented. This is the one where I wake trying to see if my surroundings are familiar. It is the one that leaves me hesitant, almost cringing, to open my eyes fearful of what may be- what I might have to deal with- who I may have hurt. I wake trying to put the pieces together of a blurry evening. My stomach twists from the guilt and disappointment in myself. Something that I have experienced quite a few times.... Sometimes the pieces of the prior evening come back quickly and some of those times not so much-
Even now.. even today... after 4 years of sobriety... it still feels so real. I guess that shouldn't surprise me... I had those experiences for decades... and now after 4 years I just expect them to go away? What does surprise me is how real it still feels- even though it was just a dream these days.. What does surprise me is how once I figure out it was just another dream that the physical effects associated with my blurry evening just disappear, that they too were just all in my head. It is a powerful sickness...
Today... as I put the pieces of that sometimes wild dream back together to realize it was only just that... a dream. I am sober this morning. I have made good decisions last night not to drink. 1,461- That's how many good decisions I have made consecutively. Nothing is guaranteed in this life and each one of those is a precious gift.
I do recall that first year, year and a half. It was awkward, I was awkward. There were moments where I didn't know what to do with my hands because I wasn't holding a beverage at social gatherings. I can share that it has gotten a lot better. I have found my stride in environments that I use to struggle in. I'm still awkward thought...
If you think you may have a problem with alcohol, or may be considering just taking a break, I want you to know there are people willing to help. I am thankful for the people who have helped me along this crazy journey.
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